“145. Write about being a misfit.”
Friends, we all have that. Who doesn’t have friends? Some of
you may say that you don’t have friends that you are alone. Don’t be
ridiculous, even though you say you don’t have friends there will be that
certain few who are your friends. You just don’t befriend them. I don’t
categorize real friends and fake friends since one definition of friend is
somewhere who is “friendly” to you.
So you
are in a group but do you ever feel like you are the only one who’s different?
Do you think that you are the only one with few similarities with others? If
you are then you are a misfit. Misfits are people whose behavior or attitude
sets them apart from others in an uncomfortably conspicuous way (Google XD). I
know what it means but it’s just hard to define though. Misfits are the people
who think that they don’t belong where they are but why are some people are
misfits or rather why do people think that the person they are with is a
misfit?
First
reason that I can think of is that misfits can’t handle the people around them
or misfits don’t have the same personality as others. They think that they are
better than them for their talent is good and theirs isn’t or they think that
their behavior or characteristics does not make them comfortable with others.
Would you say that a quiet person who barely speaks at all fits to a group who
likes to rumble around and scream? How about a person talented in piano joins a
class full of talented violinist? The tendency is that they’d leave the group
or stay there and be a misfit. The second reason is that people do not want to
be with that person because they feel uncomfortable with that certain person.
The cause might be it’s because they are jealous that they bully them, they don’t
like their personality and makes way to get them off, or they don’t like the
deficiencies the person has.
The
first reason isn’t much of a bad thing because the problem is you only. If you
don’t want to feel different then you can always work hard to attain what they
have in common. Adjustment is the key to try and be the same with others. As
for the second reason, I feel that this really is a bad thing. I have
experience being separated from others because of my personality and I know
what it’s like to be a misfit. With this reason, you are discriminated.
Discrimination is one of the things I hated most. It’s like judging a person
without even trying to know what he is capable of. This time it’s the
environment itself that is making those people misfits.
A lot
of us are trying to change to gain friends and we don’t want to be different
with the others. We want to talk a lot of things and share our common interest.
That is why other people are adjusting even though they don’t like it since
they can’t change people. But take this, would you really work hard to attain
their level and is different bad? Be proud! Being different than the others is
what makes you special. I don’t like having a boring life with the same
concepts. Having a group with different variety of personalities for me is the
best group that anyone can have. Because of this, you have your own special set
of skills and maybe share those skills or interests with others. As for the
people who are discriminating, I advise you not change and just find another group.
The moment you have changed and you were accepted -- wouldn’t you feel sad if
they found another one to discriminate on? In my belief, they only chose you
because of your usefulness and not because of who you are. I said advice but I
am not forcing you.
It is
up to you if you really want to change for yourself. Will you change to be the
same with others or will you change your concepts to accept who you are and
hope they accept you too?
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